WHO ARE NARCISSIST ? ARE YOU DATING ONE OR FREINDS WITH THEM

 Namaste,

you remember the time when one of your friends came crying to you because of her boyfriend and said 'he is a Narcissist" and you wonder 'is that the new term people are using for dating jerks?'

Well sure, 'Narcissist'  term is being tossed around a lot lately. People define narcissistic as someone who is too self-centred, egoistic and arrogant. And yes, they are some of the sign of Narcissist however its much more vast. 

The real issue here is that such people can impact anybody's life negatively just by being in it. So its utmost importance that you understand how  Narcissist behave and can stay clear from them.

Firstly there's a term for it known as NARCISSISTIC PERSON DISORDER (NPD). They are defined as someone who is deeply insecure thus need constant compliment and attention. They lack empathy for any human being as they can't imagine being in someone else's shoes and are egocentric. They believe they are better than anyone and consider themselves most superior.

Now, do not mistake someone else's self-love as 'self-centred' and call them Narcissist. It runs deeper than that, however if they are selfish and also find some of the following traits in your partner, friends or even family, please call them out and walk away from them.

REQUIRE CONSTANT ATTENTION & PRAISE

You must have noticed such people look for attention and try to get praise out of people around them. They are always trying to be the star of the show. If you are dating such a person, you will find yourself complimenting them a lot and only the good side of it. If you criticize them, they lose their temper and can behave really rudely. such people can not take criticism simply because, in their eyes, they don't have any flaws or insecurities and keep living in their fantasy world.

ITS ALWAYS YOUR FAULT

Whether it's you're first fight or 100th. It's always your fault despite who did wrong.

for instance, if your boyfriend cheated on you and now you are confronting them about it but they spin it around and blame you saying you didn't give them enough time and love. They will blame you for anything and everything.

Now that was an obvious situation, but in a relationship, there are several events where a narcissist can simply manipulate the situation and make you believe that it's your fault.

It's always essential to consider your situation from a third party's perspective and then come to a conclusion of who is actually at a fault.

LACK EMPATHY

As mentioned earlier, lacking empathy is one of the most vital signs of their behaviour. They lack the skill of seeing you, validating your feelings or understand you or your situation simply because they don't grasp the concept of feeling.

from talking only about themselves to not even asking you about your life or your feelings, proves the point that you are dealing with a narcissist.

EXAGGERATE SELF IMPORTANCE

Whenever they talk, it's always about how great they are, how great their life is and how much they have achieved in life. Such talk gives them self assurance. They want to be seen as someone who has the best of everything. They don't know what vulnerability is since it doesn't exist in their world. The only opinion that matters to them is of their own.

PRETENTIOUS 

Everything we have talked about so far shows how pretentious these people are. Their denial of facing reality makes them pretentious. Generally, they are very sensitive and insecure about themselves so they hide it with their magnetic and charming personalities.

 It's easy to get attracted to such people but their glamour eventually wears off when they will not validate or see you as a partner rather than as obedient admirers. Your wishes and desired does not matter to them.

MAKE YOU FEEL SMALL.

Let me tell you something, No one deserve to feel like you are not good enough. From time to time, such people will belittle you, they will put you down, call you names, make you feel inferior because that's how their defence mechanism works. if you point out any such behaviour to them, they won't get it. They only understand their own needs.

Now if they are a narcissist, Please do not waste any more time and recommend them to a therapist simply because you cannot change with love and affection. Cut you're all ties with them.

 Its time to draw a line for yourself as well for their unacceptable behaviour.

BENEFITS OF CHIA SEEDS FOR YOUR WEIGHT AND HEALTH.

 Namaste,

You must have heard about Chia Seeds, maybe your friends or colleague has been consuming them on a daily basis. They more often add them in their water and drink it(along with seeds) which makes you wonder "how can someone spoil their water with those ugly looking seeds?". I am with you on this, but unfortunately, fitness is with them. 

Chia seeds come from a plant names SALVIA HISPANICA and their seeds are known as CHIA which also means 'STRENGTH" in ancient language These seeds come with many health benefit factor. They are filled with nutrition, calcium and protein and whatnot. 

Before I tell you how to consume them, Here are 5 Reasons to include Chia seeds in your lifestyle.

FILLED WITH NUTRITEINT AND PROTEIN

Believe it or not, about 2 tablespoons of Chia Seeds contain 5 grams of protein, 10 grams of fibre and 138 calories.thats a lot of numbers coming from teenie tiny seeds. Not only it boosts your strength and energy, but it also improves your blood sugar level and helps to control your hunger and calorie intake.whats not to like about them?

IMPROVE YOUR SKIN HEALTH

YES, You read it right. Chia seeds are loaded with anti-oxidant, how does it help? 

Well antioxidant, reduce inflammation in the skin which help it heal faster, repair itself and correct visibly damaged skin. These tiny seeds can brighter your skin and help to smooth fine lines. Regular consumption of Chia seeds also helps to prevent premature ageing of the skin.

HELPS IN WEIGHT LOSS

Since Chia seeds contain a good amount of Fiber which helps to regulate the bowel movement of your system. Consuming Chia seeds makes one feel fuller as it absorbs water and expands in your stomach. thus it helps to suppress your hunger and contribute to your weight loss goals.

STRENGTHEN BONES

Chia seeds have Calcium content. The calcium-rich diet helps to build and protect your bone. Since our body doesn't naturally produce calcium, it's vital to eat and intake calcium as much your body needs. The lack of same weakens your bones results in fragile bones. Now, as long as you consume Chia seeds, you don't have to worry about this problem anymore.

HEALTHIFY YOUR HEART

Chia seeds reduce the risk of heart diseases. it is rich in Omega polyunsaturated fatty acids and dietary fibre which are very essential to maintain a healthy heart and reduce the chances of Coronary heart diseases.

How can you consume Chia seeds?

From eating them raw to soak them in water and sprout them before consuming them, There are many ways to consume them. 

Since they do not have any solid flavour of their own, You can add them in any vegetable or fruit juice.

You can add them in your morning ritual drink such as lemon drink water or apple cider drink and boost your weight loss process.

Be creative and add it to your yoghurt, pudding or even in milk. WHY NOT.

With that, I hope I convinced you to go right away to the market and buy yourself loads of Chia seeds.

Thank you to reach the end of the post. 

TAKE CARE.

 

The Secret of healthy relationships for Millennials.

 Namaste,

How are you today? all gorgeous and great I hope. There is no surprise that we Women love talking about boys and relationships and of course, I do not blame you, Most men always keep us on the edge and drive us crazy.

However, sometimes, God take mercy on us and sends a guy who is lovable and kind and seems perfect to see your future with. Now let me back up, Its not just men that can ruin a perfect relationship.

Ladies, it can be us too. Whether a previous relationship trauma, your past or maybe simply because this is your first relationship ever. I have seen a very perfect relationship falling apart, I have experienced it myself.

Today, I want to share the core ingredients, simple yet effective ways to sustain your relationships while keeping it healthy, fun and timeless.

FIND YOUR COMFORT ZONE

Initially, when you start dating a girl/guy, You would always find yourself intimidated with their presence and that's okay. If you see your potential partner in them and want to move things forward, You should find your comfort zone with them. Be yourself around them, no pretence. I am not saying, show your freak side on the very first date but naturally find your space to be yourself around them and if they are the right person, they will be your friend in no time.

If for some reason, No matter how hard you try, you always find yourself conscious, nervous wreck and uncomfortable around them, this could be the red flag.

FRIEND FIRST

When you talk to your friends, have you noticed how much can you blabber? a lot yet I bet you are also fun-loving and amazing personality with them. is it the same when you are with your partner?

If no, here lies the next step. Make your girl/guy your friend overtime. When you share your feelings and life experiences and even some boring details with them, they start trusting you way more. this will make them share about themself. Trust is the basic foundation of any relationship. Try to achieve a space where both of you can talk without any filters.  Every person need this quality in their future partner.

Warning: If you find them confidential, never sharing much or keep secrets, despite you might have shared everything with them. it's another red flag that needs to be checked.

KILL YOUR EGO, NOT DIGNITY

All relationship comes with a lot of ups and downs and with that, you might find yourself confused and Indecisive . Remember, if your ego comes first for you, then you can't maintain a relationship, at least not for a long time. Sometimes, you need to set your pride and ego aside and do your best to save your relationship, even with the right person.

It's okay to text them first, it's okay to call them first, it's okay to resolve your issues first. It's okay to tell them how you feel.

You know what is not okay? Always being the first one to text, always the one to say sorry, always the one to put all efforts. If this is the case, Stop there. Either they have taken you for granted, or don't really love you. In any case, you don't need such relationship darling. 

COMMUNICATE.

Every single friend, relationship expert or even counsellor will tell you to 'Just Communicate' and really it's that simple in a relationship. communication is important, so there won't be any misunderstanding, it's important so they don't feel confused about you and your feeling, it's important, so they will know you give a shit about them.

One fight and it will test your understanding with each other, and the only thing that will save your relationship is *you guessed it* Communication. Otherwise, your whole relation can fall apart,if not right away then eventually.

 So JUST TALK GUYS.With right conversation, you will become more transparent with each other, more faithful which would always keep your spark alive.

KEEP IT FUN, ALWAYS

After a few months of dating, your love life could become another one of your routines. Its a must to keep your relation healthy and fun. If your all dates have been outdoor, well then bring it at home and spend some quality time with each other. If you always been going out for a brunch or dinner, then try going out for shopping together, or amusement park or join any fancy dance classes. if you have been chilling at home a lot, then try going out. Keep changing your ambience. Create your own fun together.

Don't limit yourself for all the things that you can do with them. Do everything with them, keep it dynamic and loving.

Thank you for your time for this post, i would love to hear your feedback

TAKE CARE.

P.S - I love Ross and Rachel.

YOGA OR EXCERCISE FOR BODY? WHICH IS BETTER.

 Namaste,

Another Summer day, and here we are. Now, when you consider working on your body and health, the next question that comes to mind,  is whether you should join a gym or exercise at home or just focus on diet. Some people get an additional question in their head if they should start Yoga.

Well, the answer to it really depends on what is your goal? They all are relevant to each other but a master in their own stream. For example, if you want to lose weight in less time, then gyming and cardio would be best for you.

let me simplify your choice and guide you to your best course of action.

CARDIO/ EXERCISE

Exercise or Cardio workout is a physical activity performed to gain many benefits. The more intense workout, the more calories you burn. If you want muscular physique, lose weight, belly fat or, get fitter and any of these are your goals, then cardio /exercise will suit you better.

It also helps in improving your health condition, your sleep, your mood and boost your energy. 

YOGA 

YOGA word derives Sanskrit word "YUJ' which means union. Yoga helps in strengthen and relaxing the body, harmonize the body and mind through breathing exercises, physical exercises and meditation. 

Yoga makes you more flexible, more focused and it connects your mind with your body. It is a kind of meditation

With practising Asana(Yoga poses), you will find the right postures which help to reduce body pain, strengthen your muscle and your Bones. 

There are some Asans, that can help you to lose weight with Yoga, though, it's achievable with time and practice however Cardio in other hands, will give you result in efficient time but it will hardly offer any mental calmness or harmony.

I would say Yoga is an exercise for your mind and soul. If you want to stay lean or maintain your body and be more woke or aware of the inside, then yoga is for you.

If by any chance, you are still confused, Well don't worry, because you can practice for both, 2 to 3 yoga session and 4 to 5 cardio session a week and you are all set.

Until Next time 

TAKE CARE.

5 Fun Ways to lose and maintain your Weight

Namaste,

You know what I was thinking today? why losing weight is so pain in the ass. The gym is all great and fine but its never going to be our favorite thing to do or atleast mine. Then you have the diet you must follow because dieting plays major role in your weight loss transformation.. life shouldn't be that hard? especially on us? The good news is, its not.

I want to share some FUN ways to lose weight. If you wish, you can take these tips seriously or tread it lightly, anything that suits you.

 DANCE

Dancing is an art form in every country out there and you know the best part? you don't have to be a dancer to Dance. just by doing some stupid moves, you can burn calories in a good number. If you are shy, take this as a practice session to impress your crush in a club(whenever they will open) and start dancing. It's the same as jogging but BETTER.

GO CHICKEN

For this point, you need to be a Non-Vegetarian.

Now, Dieting is very important when it comes to losing weight. Your dieting plan can make or break your plan for losing weight. Chicken or egg has a very high protein content, which plays a very important role in sustaining our muscles, furthermore, it's lean meat which basically means it doesn't have much fat.

EAT WhOLESOME FOOD

The reason to eat wholesome food is to avoid eating processed food or minimalist process  That would ensure to avoid added sugar and fake proteins. Wholesome food is filled with nutrient, natural sugar and it works wonders for weight loss and your digestion.

EAT FRUITS.

I understand eating vegetables is not so appealing but you can't say the same about fruits. It is Delicious, good on your stomach, Very low on calories. From Mango, orange to Banana, grapes, watermelon. Fruits come with whole Range. Just by eating fruits, not only you lose weight but your skin starts glowing and your stomach is happy. it's a WIN-WIN.

GO PLAY OUTSIDE.

Its time to go outdoor you guys, I personally love Badminton to play outside. Playing is not just for kids but for adults too. It helps to reduce anxiety,improve relaxation and mood while burning a few calories.You can play with your sibling, family, boyfriend, anyone really. Choose any game and play it outside.

I assure you, all these ways that I have shared are pretty easy to follow, all you need to do is to put effort.

TAKE CARE.

HEALTH TIPS FOR YOUR DAY TO DAY LIFE.

 Namaste,

I hope you and your family are all well and fine. For the past few months, I have realised the true value of mental health, your own awareness, and your body's vitality. Since I have started giving time for my self, I am more at peace, less stressed and smiling more to myself. the power in your wellbeing is immense.

Here are my Healthy tips for Wellbeing and awareness:

1. Drink plenty of water.

Either it's your skin or your body issues, water can solve a lot of them, all you have to do is just drink it. sounds pretty easy right?. dehydration can cause skin disorder and even wrinkles so next time when you are drinking water, drink a little more eh?. from regulating body temperature to your digestive system. it works wonder.

2.Get Enough sleep.

when you work from home, you expect to at least complete your sleep every night but then life happens and Voila you are an owl. its time to fix your schedule, sleeping late not only disturb your following day but affect your energy level too. An average adult requires 8 hours of night sleep. Basically, your every day depends on your previous day's sleep. Don't mess that up.

3.Maintain your BMI.

BMI stands for body mass index. basically, your target body weight depends on your height, age, and gender. you can google your BMI range. It will show you the maximum weight and minimum weight. you don't have to be a gym enthusiastic or a model to care for BMI. Every human should maintain their body weight to avoid a wide range of diseases. if you have proportionate weight, it gives you a boost of confidence and you feel good from inside out

4. Eat proportional Meal.

If you ask me, I believe you eat your food till you get full and probably can't breathe because of all the stuffing in your tummy. Sadly, that's not how it goes. The right way of eating any meal is to eat in a proportionate amount. It's okay if you are not full, you need to satisfy your hunger. Eating slowly is another way to ensure that you intake right amount of food and will kill your hunger. this tip will change your life. 

5.Work on your Stress.

Stress is a mood killer. it keeps you distracted, take a toll on your health, and keep your life pretty miserable. There are many ways to control and reduce stress and they all work in their own way. to relieve stress, you can 

Talk to your Friend, family, or even can seek professional help. Meditation and yoga can do wonders on your body and mind. when you find yourself stressing too much in a particular moment, try Deep breathing for instant relief.

6.Small habits but big Change.

Small habits can cause a great impact on your day to day life. 

try to brush your teeth twice a day. 

Use sunscreen not only when you go out in a sun but at home to protect your skin from UV light.

Don't skip your Breakfast. 

and most importantly, Don't smoke or at least try not to.

I hope you liked my article. I would love to hear from you and don't forget to follow.

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Why to let go & Be thankful to wrong men in Relationship

NAMASTE

In my life, it's another beautiful day, in not so great world however free from toxic men. when I was younger, I dint even know what toxicity means. I thought the relationship has to be really bad to call it toxic. Now grown up, my perspective has changed a lot, simply because this generation changed a lot. 

You see, I am a 90s kid and still fascinated by old school love but living in 2020, a lot of things has changed, and sadly, it also changed love.

it's not just men that can be toxic in your life but women, your friends, and family too. it's important to call out toxic relationships. 

when you Love someone or you are seeing someone new and its early stages of dating, things can go anywhere from there. that same man could be the one you marry or that same man could make your life miserable, very very miserable.

Those men are more often, Fuckboys, toxic, and sometimes cowards. let me define you those descriptions:

Fuckboys - men who pretend to have feelings for women, or play along, just to get into their pants.

Toxic Men - they are the ones who will not let you go but will not treat you right either.

Coward Men - they are scared of commitments, relationships, Love and would rather lose you than to be a man.

I would not advise to date any of these men. they will clutter your head, keep you up at night, and will make you feel that you are not good enough. No women and I repeat, no women should feel that she is not good enough.

they will make you suffer, with their hot and cold personality. they will tell you how you are the only one, but still, fool around with other women.

they will make you feel bad for craving attention, affection and somehow will end up blaming you

however, if you have already dated them or dating them, what comes next is that while tolerating their bullshit, you will become intolerant to other people's bullshit. you will be stronger than before and braver.

a stressed-out woman over these wrong men

Because of them, You will have a clear vision of what kind of men you don't want to date. And most importantly, they will teach you how to stand up for yourself and say no because if you don't, then there will be other men ready to drain you mentally and emotionally.

And boo, let me remind you, it's not your goddamn job to fix him okay? because you will die trying to change him and he will still be the same. the only time he can ever change when he decides to change.No woman can change any man unless he wants to change.

Promise me something Darling, will you? whenever you see red flags in a man or notice few things about him which makes your gut instinct scream "DANGER''. you will not hoover around, just pack your bag and leave. 

I hope, all the women that have gone through these rough shit because of such men are doing Fantastic and have let go of their hate, anger, and misery against them. 

cuz you know what they say " MEN AIN'T SHIT'.

Thank you for reaching the end of my post. I hope you liked it. I would love to hear from you personally. reach out to me in my mails, and I would love to help you out in love matters.

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20 favorite stand alone books to Love.

Namaste,

I hope you are doing well wherever you are. today, I want to share my love for books. what can I say, it was love at first sight. From the time I picked up my first novel to a time where I have read hundreds of books.

The genres that I absolutely adore are Young Adult, Fantasy, Fiction, dystopian, and so on but I want to talk about standalone books that can make you laugh, cry or break your heart, in my favorites genres.

 The list of my favorite standalone books is here.

1.Beautiful Disaster by Jamie Mcguire.

GENRE & TAGS - NEW ADULT, ROMANCE, ENEMIES TO LOVER, COLLEGE STUDENTS.

2. The fault in our star by John green

GENRE & TAGS - HIGH SCHOOL, REALISTIC FICTION, HEARTBREAKING STORY, ROMANCE.

3.Making Faces by Amy Harmon

GENRE & TAGS- CONTEMPORARY, FICTION, ROMANCE, MILITARY, WAR, POWERFUL.

4. Maybe someday by Collen Hoover

 GENRE & TAGS  - NEW ADULT, ROMANCE, CONTEMPORARY, MUSIC, LOVE TRIANGLE.

5.Uprooted by Naomi Novik

GENRE & TAGS - FAIRY TALES, HIGH FANTASY, ADVENTURE, STRONG LEAD. 

6.The sea of tranquility by  Katja Millay

GENRE & TAGS - REALISTIC FICTION, CONTEMPORARY ROMANCE, DRAMA, FAVORITES

7.The Forbidden Wish by Jessica Khoury

GENRE & TAGS - HIGH FANTASY, MAGIC, FAIRY-TALES, ROMANCE, YA, ADVENTUROUS.

8.A walk to Remember by Nicholas Sparks

GENRE & TAGS- FICTION, CHICK-LIT, ROMANCE, YOUNG ADULT, HIGH SCHOOL, TEAR JERKER.

9.Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell

GENRE & TAGS -  YOUNG ADULT CONTEMPORARY, HIGH SCHOOL, COMING OF AGE, CHICK- LIT.

10. Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn

GENRE & TAGS - STRONG FEMALE LEAD, DARK THEME, SUSPENSEFUL, THRILLER 

11. Vain by Fisher Amelie

GENRE & TAGS- CONTEMPORARY ROMANCE, DRAMA, NEW ADULT, STANDALONE, STRONG LEAD.

12. The Perks of Being a Wallflower

GENRE & TAGS -  COMING OF AGE, REALISTIC, TEEN, MENTAL HEALTH.

13. a Different Blue by Amy Harmon

GENRE & TAGS- FICTION, HIGH SCHOOL, ROMANCE, YOUNG ADULT.

14. Cruel Beauty by Rosamund Huge 

GENRE & TAGS -  YA, MYTHOLOGY, FANTASY, FAIRY TALES, ROMANCE.

15. Ugly Love by Collen Hoover

GENRE & TAGS -  FICTION, DARK ROMANCE, NEW ADULT, CONTEMPORARY.

16. Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell

GENRE & TAGS -  REALISTIC FICTION, LITERATURE, HIGH SCHOOL, HOPELESS ROMANTIC.

17. Hunted by Meagan Spooner

GENRE & TAGS - FANTASY, ROMANCE, RETELLING, YA, FAIRY TALES.

18. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee

GENRE & TAGS -  CLASSIC, HISTORIC FICTION, LITERATURE, HIGH SCHOOL.

19. Vampire Crush by A.M Robinson

GENRE & TAGS - PARANORMAL, ROMANCE, HUMOR, VAMPIRES, NEW ADULT.

20.  Drink, Slay, Love by Sarah Beth Durst

GENRE & TAGS-  FANTASY, HUMOR, VAMPIRES, NEW ADULT.

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